Ethans First day at School

Ethans first day of School and he wasn't even nervous, unlike his mum and dad.


Helping Dad unpack the shopping

The boys and I just got back from doing the weekly shopping and both of them were having a Great time helping dad put the shopping away by inspecting all the cool stuff they would like to eat before dinner.  I had almost finished filling the pantry and realised I had not seen or heard Jackson for a few minutes.

I ask Ethan "Where is your Brother?" and he disappears for a while on a reconascence mission before yelling  "Daddy!!! He's EATING THEM!

I went into the Lounge room to find:

Yummy Mushrooms

How To Deal With Your Child's Food Allergy

A child deserves all the attention, love and care in the world and most parents give their children as much as possible.  Usually health issues of children receive greatest of care and attention from the parents.  But, the burden of responsibility becomes even heavier when it comes to dealing with food allergy in one's child because in early childhood and even in teenage, children themselves are not able to understand the fact that how come certain snacks, which they see people having around them every day can be fatal for them.  Here the parents have a very important role to play.  They should lay down the child's diet schedule in such a way that the child doesn't feel deprived or restricted in any way.

Talking is the key, when it comes to dealing with child's food allergy.  In early childhood the parents should have a regular conversation with the child about the food allergy he or she might be suffering from. Some parent don’t really understand the importance of this early age discussion and think it a waste of  time but it’s a recognized fact now that talking to children in pre-school and elementary school age about their allergy really helps in preventing the child from having allergy reaction just because of his innocence and ignorance.  For example, it’s a common practice in schools that children exchange their snacks.  If the child knows what he can accept and what not and what will be the after effects if he does, a possibility of allergic reaction is avoided here just because of those few minutes which were spent by parents telling their child about his food allergy.  Later on, as the child heads towards teenage, he should be taught to develop a habit of reading food labels to know the exact ingredients.

A child is after all a child and he can't take care of himself all by himself and its equally important that people who come into his contact in day to day life like school nurses, daycare providers, relatives and parents of friends all are well aware about the food allergy he or she is suffering because most of the times an allergic reaction occurs when children are out and parents are not there.  So parents should communicate with all the people who come into contact with the child in his routine life about the food allergy the child has, its symptoms, precautions and medications so that any adverse situation can be avoided when the child is out.  And it won't be a bad idea either to send the child with his own bag of approved snacks when he is going out.

Parents are the protecting shield for a child and it should be so. Whether dining at home or having a meal at a restaurant, its important for the parents to know what are the ingredients of the food there  child is going to have.  At home parents should read the food labels every time the child is going to have it though it may be regular brand because food manufacturers often tend to change recipes and same kind of food may have a slightly different recipe at different points of time.  When at a restaurant, the parents should inquire in detail about ingredients and cooking methods of the food items being offered by the restaurant because sometimes a minor negligence on the part of parents causes a serious problem for the allergy affected child.

Medication should always be present.  Parents should pay special attention to this aspect that in case of an allergic reaction, whether at home or at school or a day care center, the child receives proper medication in time. So wherever the child goes whether it is school, daycare center, a friend's or a relative's house, his medications should always be sent with him and an adult in the house should be given complete information about how and when to use the medication.

Small steps make big difference.  Small precautionary steps from parents starting from early childhood help their child a great deal in living a life which is as normal and as beautiful as it can be.  A child with food allergy can live a happy and healthy life but it's up to the parents that how well they go about it.

House Dad Update

I have been doing a fair bit of part time work since July last year and it is great to get out of the the house a few days a week.  The downside of this is  putting the boys in childcare almost nullifies the money I make working.  It is good to be around with people over the age of 5 once and a while and it also helps my boys develop much needed social skills being around kids their own age.

Jackson and Ethan making noise


First steps for Jackson

Our little Jackson has just stared to walk and now he is getting into everything.  The extra height is great for getting into cupboards, opening doors, playing with Dads computer and escaping into the garden!  Lots of bruises for the little bub, but he is quickly turning into a professional:

Preventing Bullying Among Children at School

Harassment or oppression, in lay terms, bullying is a serious issue in schools today. It is an issue which cannot be passed over as an aspect of growing up or some such excuse. There are many causes for an act of bullying to occur. But whatever the reason, the child who experiences the oppression or the sufferer is sure to be emotionally or physically injured. This is why all sorts of harassment in schools need to be taken very seriously and dealt with in an appropriate manner.

Most often the person who notices the first signs of bullying is the teachers or caregivers or any other adult closely in charge of the children. Action must be taken at once to immediately curb such acts. Dealing with children who have been beleaguered can be a very delicate issue, and the bully has to be dealt with in a fitting manner to make certain he does not resort to distressing others again.

If you happen to be an immediate supervisor to children in you charge, you may find the following paragraphs very useful.

Never discuss anything you know about any episodes of aggravation with the victim in the presence of other children. Find an opportune moment to bring up the subject. Make known to the child the extent of your concern and tell them that you care about them. Make sure you do not cross a threshold at this point. Too much compassion might make them close up and withdraw from you. Get them to tell exactly what happened and their feelings of the incident. Assure them that they did the right thing in confiding in you and also instruct them to approach their parents. Make sure to tell them that their right and what they feel is justified and ordinary. Equip the child with advice as to how they might behave should the incident reoccur.

Co-operation of parents and the teachers is the best way to stem episodes of bullying among children at school. The parents of a bully need to be spoken to. Inform them of the severity of the act and discuss with them as to what might be the reason behind the need to bully other children in school. Advice and explain to them the best way to deal with their child. Make sure that your tone and manner is gentle and neutral in order to dispel any misunderstanding or to prevent them thinking that you had a confrontation with them. Since most parents are under the impression that discrimination and maltreatment at school is a minor issue and their child will grow out of it, its up to you to make it clear to them that this is not so and it might lead to severe damage of character for both the victim and the bully.

As adults who spend most of their time with the children away from their parents, it is up to you to guide them in the correct manner. This also includes handling wisely certain difficult issues like bullying. Both the harassed victim and the harasser needs to spoken to separately and assistance is necessary to sort out their problems. This is the best way to ensure curtailing the bullying at school in the future.

Any form of harassment is a very sensitive subject to any victim and in kids it's tenfold. Therefore dealing with them should be very carefully thought out and put into action.

Care should also be taken to prevent the bullied victims from closing up or stirring reluctance. Parental involvement gives a positive influence in sorting out the problem and talking over things in an orderly fashion helps too. Bullies need to be confronted and the facts their actions are unacceptable and failure to rectify their ways will lead to serious consequences will need to be made known to them.

2 Boys with colds = Tired Dad and MUM!

Have you ever noticed the day before your son or daughter gets a cold they act extremely happy and full of life?

Well it happens to me so often I know the next day they will most likely come down with a cold and today both my boys did!    It must be their immune systems going into overdrive.

Colds and kids - especially when it affects the younger ones like it did to Jax, can create a parental nightmare.  Not sleeping, tired and grumpy bubs certainly can get you worked up over the length of a day and but there is always a solution.

The thing that kept Jax awake all night was a severely blocked nose.  He would wake up crying every 10 minutes gasping for air as he couldn't breath through his nose.

My saving grace in this instance is a simple steam based vapouriser given to my wife by her Mum.  The thing works wonders for blocked noses although there seams to be no medical reason as to why they work.

The Parenting Tips That Everyone Should Know

1. Spend Time With Your Children

Spend time with your children.  This is the number one tip.  Remember the popular TV show, the suite life of Zack and Cody? Okay, do you remember the show where London and Maddie compare families? London, although rich; barely knew her parents; while Maddie, although she didn't have as much money, knew her parents and loved to spend time with them.  London respected her father because he was rich, but Maddie respected hers because she loved him.  Why? Because he spent time with her.

2. Don't break promises

You don't want your child to break promises? Don't break the promises you make to them.  If you say you're going to be at a basketball game, be there! If you can't, make sure your child understands the reasons why.  But if you promise, make every effort to follow through on your promises.  Remember, children usually do as they are taught through watching more than through listening.

3. Follow your own rules

You want your children not to eat in the living room? Don't eat in the living room.  You want your children not to watch TV past nine o'clock? Don't watch TV past nine o'clock.  You can set your own rules, but they won't do much good unless you follow them also.

4. Get the story - the whole story

So your child broke a glass picture.  Why did it break? What was the child doing when it broke? Were his friends there? Was it a valuable picture? Was he disobeying the rules? Get the whole story before you decide on what should be done.  Don't make snap judgment.

5. Manage your temper

Don't yell at your kids if they don't need it! If they haven't done anything wrong, don't yell at them! Take a deep breath and calm yourself down.  Don't swear and don't verbally or physically abuse your children. This will make them respect you - out of fear.  You want your children to respect you because of love, not fear.  Take a deep breath and relax.  Walk out of the room.  If you're verbally or physically abusing your child, seek help-and a place for your children to stay until you can manage your temper.

6. Teach your child to share

If you don't teach your child to share at home, he's going to have to learn to share at preschool, and that's not a fun experience for the teachers.  Even if your child is an only child, you can still make him share: with you, with his friends, with others.  Teaching your child to share young will help him later on in life.

Full Moon = Crazy Kids

My Kids are Werewolves

Only kidding!

I am not sure how many others are affected by this phenomena but the 3 days surrounding a full Moon, both my kids go a little crazy - like having one too many red cordials.  Both of my boys also have restless sleep throughout the night which also means their mum and dad do too.  It happens without fail every full Moon, so much so it is getting easier to predict the cycle of the moon based on the behaviour of my kids.

Anyone else notice this?

3 Year old Computer skills

I am one of those Dads who allows my kids to go wild on my PC.  If he is going to break something - no problem, being on the geeky side quickly rectifies any issues.  A lot of parents may not be too happy with their child messing around with the computer, but with a little guidance and encouragement, you will be surprised at how much the younger ones can pick up and learn.

It is amazing what your kids can do when left to their own devices, I recently upgraded my main PC the the RC build of Windows 7.  Apart from being a great update to the Windows family, the new version of the simple paint program is fantastic for teaching your kids basic computer manipulation skills.

ET has always had a big fascination with computers and gadgets of all sorts - it must run in the family. Here is what he came up with on his first attempt using "Paint" using multiple mouse buttons and advanced menu navigation: