Harassment or oppression, in lay terms, bullying is a serious issue in schools today. It is an issue which cannot be passed over as an aspect of growing up or some such excuse. There are many causes for an act of bullying to occur. But whatever the reason, the child who experiences the oppression or the sufferer is sure to be emotionally or physically injured. This is why all sorts of harassment in schools need to be taken very seriously and dealt with in an appropriate manner.
Most often the person who notices the first signs of bullying is the teachers or caregivers or any other adult closely in charge of the children. Action must be taken at once to immediately curb such acts. Dealing with children who have been beleaguered can be a very delicate issue, and the bully has to be dealt with in a fitting manner to make certain he does not resort to distressing others again.
If you happen to be an immediate supervisor to children in you charge, you may find the following paragraphs very useful.
Never discuss anything you know about any episodes of aggravation with the victim in the presence of other children. Find an opportune moment to bring up the subject. Make known to the child the extent of your concern and tell them that you care about them. Make sure you do not cross a threshold at this point. Too much compassion might make them close up and withdraw from you. Get them to tell exactly what happened and their feelings of the incident. Assure them that they did the right thing in confiding in you and also instruct them to approach their parents. Make sure to tell them that their right and what they feel is justified and ordinary. Equip the child with advice as to how they might behave should the incident reoccur.
Co-operation of parents and the teachers is the best way to stem episodes of bullying among children at school. The parents of a bully need to be spoken to. Inform them of the severity of the act and discuss with them as to what might be the reason behind the need to bully other children in school. Advice and explain to them the best way to deal with their child. Make sure that your tone and manner is gentle and neutral in order to dispel any misunderstanding or to prevent them thinking that you had a confrontation with them. Since most parents are under the impression that discrimination and maltreatment at school is a minor issue and their child will grow out of it, its up to you to make it clear to them that this is not so and it might lead to severe damage of character for both the victim and the bully.
As adults who spend most of their time with the children away from their parents, it is up to you to guide them in the correct manner. This also includes handling wisely certain difficult issues like bullying. Both the harassed victim and the harasser needs to spoken to separately and assistance is necessary to sort out their problems. This is the best way to ensure curtailing the bullying at school in the future.
Any form of harassment is a very sensitive subject to any victim and in kids it’s tenfold. Therefore dealing with them should be very carefully thought out and put into action.
Care should also be taken to prevent the bullied victims from closing up or stirring reluctance. Parental involvement gives a positive influence in sorting out the problem and talking over things in an orderly fashion helps too. Bullies need to be confronted and the facts their actions are unacceptable and failure to rectify their ways will lead to serious consequences will need to be made known to them.